Manifest a Dream by Being Extreme – A Courageous Woman’s Guest Post

There are weeks when I feel like I’m knocking it out of the park, when I know what I’m doing, when I’m making plans and moving forward with such ease that I amaze myself.

And life is good.

And there are weeks, like this one, where I wonder if I’ve lost my mind, if following my dreams is crazy, if I’ll be living on peanut butter and jelly the rest of my life because I didn’t have enough sense to quit while I was ahead.

When are you ever gonna be satisfied?”, a frustrated friend once asked me. “The day I die,” I answered, “because I always want to be growing, changing, learning…. and there’s always something else out there I’m going to want to try.

Well, growing can be scary work sometimes.

It means letting go of what you know and stepping in to what you want. Sometimes it means asking for more, even while living with less. Always, it means standing in what I call the Great In-Between, while you figure things out, and create your new way.

It means living on faith, and sometimes – finding your own Encouragers.

So, needing a lift this week myself, I remembered this, one of my favorite blog posts by one of my favorite coaches, Christine Kane. Her words lend me the strength and encouragement I need when the ground gets a little shaky.

Thought I’d share it with you, for the days when you’re going after your own crazy dreams.

Be Encouraged. :)


Manifest a Dream by Being Extreme

Written by Christine Kane

Long ago, when I first shared my dream of becoming a professional musician with my friend Shelly, she knitted her brows and said, “Huh?”

The dire warnings she fired off didn’t surprise me. Hey, most of us have had a lifetime filled with this kind of “practical advice.”  And I was used to giving up in the face of it.

During this fumbling stumbling time, I met a man who became an unlikely best friend and mentor.  He was a brilliant jazz musician as well as a self-employed computer programmer.

One night, I told him my dream.  Without even blinking, he said, “Honey (he always called me Honey), you’d be fabulous. That’s perfect!”  And he meant it.

At that moment, I was flying.  I had never experienced such direct and truthful support without a single “practical” warning attached.  This friend set me free by offering one simple thing:


That moment was not only the launch point of a successful entrepreneurial path for me – but also for me choosing to be an encouraging voice to others.

Encouragement is more than just a fleeting moment of motivation.  It’s a genuine jolt of “can-do” and glimpse of possibility.   Yes, there might be work to be done. But encouragement reminds us that it CAN be done.

Think about the last great idea you had, or the last big decision you needed to make.

Who did you most want to call for support and solutions?

Be THAT person.

You can call it a coach, an advisor, or go ahead and call it an Extreme Encourager.  Those of us who choose this role would love it if you’d join us.

Here are the club rules:

• Be a Leader

Whether you’re a business owner, an artist, an entrepreneur or a CEO – you must own your role as a leader. What this means is that you recognize and take seriously the enormous influence you have on the people around you. You may not even know it yet, but you’re impacting the people around you every day.

The friend I mentioned? The one who encouraged me?  He went on to a leadership role at Apple in Cupertino. No surprise. He didn’t take lightly his impact and influence.  You shouldn’t either.

• Model a Courageous Life

The best encouragers are the ones who live it. Whether they’re just getting started, or they’re veteran risk-taking pioneers – the encouragers are the ones who want a bigger life for themselves and are willing to “go there.”   This is why my jazz musician friend could simply offer encouragement when my other friend could not.

•  Be an Active Listener

Encouragers know that encouragement doesn’t mean you just tell people to “buck up” or “get over it.” They know how to listen.  This means looking at the speaker, listening to her, setting your agendas and judgments aside, and honoring the wise soul who is sharing her heart with you.

•  Avoid Clichés

Avoiding clichés is a natural result of actively listening to someone. Being an extreme encourager doesn’t mean that you blindly tell people “You can do it!” or “Let go of fear!”  It’s deeper than that. It’s seeing the truth of the other person, especially when they cannot.

•  Acknowledge Your Fear (But Don’t Give it Power)

Face it. We all get visits from the hooglie-booglies. These are the voices that tell us we can’t, or we shouldn’t, or we’ll fail, or we’ll look stupid. An encourager doesn’t focus on those voices because she knows they they’re trying to hook her.  An encourager simply acknowledges that the voices are there and that you can’t make them go away by arguing with them. An encourager knows that those voices aren’t the truth. They only SEEM like the truth.

•  Believe in Miracles As Well as Work

Extreme encouragers are mystics of sorts.  They know that the so-called “woo-woo” stuff is more real than the so-called “logical” stuff.  They celebrate the divine as a simple fact of everyday existence and don’t get caught up in the “prove it” mindset.

•  Know that the Goal Shapes the Goal-Setter

She knows you’ll develop the needed character traits as you go. In other words, you’re ready now, even if you’re not perfect yet!  I shudder when I read advice that discourages people from trying something because of character traits “required” in advance. “You shouldn’t _________ if you’re not disciplined.” “If you don’t have focus, you can’t be a ___________.” Most of the successful people I know developed these traits as they went.  I certainly did.  Encouragers understand the huge potential for growth in the human spirit, especially when someone takes the biggest risk of all and begins to follow her heart.

So, whatdya think?  Has encouragement helped or hindered you in your dreams?  Do you want to be encouraged, or would you rather be warned?  Share in the comments!  I’m really curious here…


Christine Kane is the Mentor to People Who are Changing the World. She helps women and men Uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly Uplevel You eZine goes out to over 26,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a FREE subscription at


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