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Just Say Thank You. :)

Photo Credit: Didriks on Flickr

So – are you cooking today?

Here in the U.S., this is Thanksgiving, a major holiday when most thoughts turn to turkey and dressing, family and friends.

Many of us will tune in to watch the annual Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, then we’ll enjoy a huge, delicious meal before dozing, off and on, through an entire afternoon of football. It’s a happy tradition.

Life slows down a little.

We gather to recognize and celebrate those things for which we are grateful.

We stop. Pay attention. Count our blessings.

And if you’re in charge at your house, you may feel the pressure of preparing that big, special dinner – perhaps even more than you feel the pressure of serving your clients!

Of course, some of you handle it with total ease. And some of you — like me — cook with fingers crossed behind your back that somehow it actually works.

(This year, I’ll be planning a mid-winter retreat for a client’s team – instead of cooking – but I’ll do the dishes. Happily!)

And then – the compliments will start.

That was great!
The turkey looks perfect!
Wow, look at that pie. Can’t wait to dig in to THAT one…

And what will you do when that compliment comes your way?

Most of my clients do a great job of thanking others for what they do. They think nothing of tossing out a hug and a “thank you!” for this or a “great job!” for that to family members, friends or co-workers.

And if you’re a guest at someone else’s kitchen this year, betcha money you’ll tell her –(or him) – what a great job she did too.

But when someone throws an “atta girl!” out to you, you may not handle it quite as well.

In fact, some of you pick up that compliment and throw it right back.

“Oh that? That was nothing. Anybody could do that…”

“That” could be anything. Cook a great dessert, raise a great kid, create a great training or give a great talk.

But a compliment is a gift.

And when you toss it back, you are returning the gift unopened. You are declining a treasure just as surely as if you’d handed back a present wrapped in beautiful, shimmering paper – unopened, refused.

I know you would never mean it to be that way – but that’s what you’re doing.

And that is yet another way that you are blocking the flow of positive energy.

So when someone says something nice to you, they are offering a gift – through words. Receive them well. Resist the temptation to deflect praise with a careless, “oh that was nothing.”

Just say thank you.

No modifiers. No little statements afterwards that take it all back. Just a simple smile and a thanks – and that’s IT.

By all means, do stop to give thanks on this special day…

but practice receiving thanks, as well.

Oh, and here’s a quick bonus tip!

If they offer to help with the dishes? Say thanks – and yes – to THAT, too.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

The One Thing You Must Protect – No Matter What

“I told my friend what you said…”

Uh oh. I always hold my breath when a client says something like this. What did I say this time?

“I told her about my new packages, and how you said I need to raise my rates.”

Oh. That. Well then.

“She didn’t think that was such a good idea…”

Of course she didn’t, I thought to myself. That’s why she’s not your coach.

And I set about working to repair the damage to my client’s confidence.
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The Most Effective Ways to Start Your Day

I drove her crazy.

And it was so much fun.

In college, I had a roommate who had a very clear, personal rule that said no one was to speak to her until she got back from her first class. To say that she was not a morning person was an understatement.

So I had a lot of fun with her.

“Good MORNING, Debbie! How are you this morning? Is this a great day, or what?!”

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What an Early Morning Bike Ride Taught Me about Business

IMG_2963I was SO good at that downhill part. :)

My 24 year old recently took up cycling.  So, when he invited me to join him for an 11 mile ride through Cades Cove, a spectacular place in the Great Smoky Mountains, I couldn’t wait to go.

I’d made that ride many times as a kid, so I was pretty sure I could still handle it. I did warn him, though, that he would likely be much faster than me.

And he was – except when we reached those long steep curvy downhills.

In fact, just coasting downhill, I usually picked up enough speed to zoom right by my oh-so-athletic son.

Even if his bike was a veritable sports car.

And even if mine was the equivalent of a 10 year old minivan. Continue reading

How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

Granny 1Ohhhh the stories we could tell.

Because when you live to be 103, you create a lot of stories along the way. :)

My paternal grandmother was a member of what some call the Greatest Generation, and a force to be reckoned with. She outlived two husbands and a son. Made it through two World Wars, the Great Depression, and the Civil Rights Era.

She saw women get the right to vote, men walk on the moon, and the fall of the Wall in Berlin. She witnessed the invention of radio, then TV, then something called “the Internet”.

And she saw all of our struggles and triumphs as well.

So last week, when the inimitable Ms.Nettie crossed over into the next stage of her life’s Journey, yes – there were many tears.

But there was also great joy.

This post isn’t about how to succeed in your business. But, as my own coach says, “How you do anything is how you do everything”.

So how you live, and how you work, is also how you create, survive – and succeed.

I wrote the following a few years ago, right after Granny’s 100th birthday celebration. And in honor of her amazing life, it feels right to share it again.

Perhaps something here will help you too – in your life, and maybe even your business.

So here you go, in no particular order…

A lifetime of wisdom in 17 short chapters.

Or, just a few things she taught me about how to have a long and lovely life. Continue reading