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The One Thing You Must Protect – No Matter What

“I told my friend what you said…”

Uh oh. I always hold my breath when a client says something like this. What did I say this time?

“I told her about my new packages, and how you said I need to raise my rates.”

Oh. That. Well then.

“She didn’t think that was such a good idea…”

Of course she didn’t, I thought to myself. That’s why she’s not your coach.

And I set about working to repair the damage to my client’s confidence.
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The Most Effective Ways to Start Your Day

I drove her crazy.

And it was so much fun.

In college, I had a roommate who had a very clear, personal rule that said no one was to speak to her until she got back from her first class. To say that she was not a morning person was an understatement.

So I had a lot of fun with her.

“Good MORNING, Debbie! How are you this morning? Is this a great day, or what?!”

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What an Early Morning Bike Ride Taught Me about Business

IMG_2963I was SO good at that downhill part. :)

My 24 year old recently took up cycling.  So, when he invited me to join him for an 11 mile ride through Cades Cove, a spectacular place in the Great Smoky Mountains, I couldn’t wait to go.

I’d made that ride many times as a kid, so I was pretty sure I could still handle it. I did warn him, though, that he would likely be much faster than me.

And he was – except when we reached those long steep curvy downhills.

In fact, just coasting downhill, I usually picked up enough speed to zoom right by my oh-so-athletic son.

Even if his bike was a veritable sports car.

And even if mine was the equivalent of a 10 year old minivan. Continue reading

How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

Granny 1Ohhhh the stories we could tell.

Because when you live to be 103, you create a lot of stories along the way. :)

My paternal grandmother was a member of what some call the Greatest Generation, and a force to be reckoned with. She outlived two husbands and a son. Made it through two World Wars, the Great Depression, and the Civil Rights Era.

She saw women get the right to vote, men walk on the moon, and the fall of the Wall in Berlin. She witnessed the invention of radio, then TV, then something called “the Internet”.

And she saw all of our struggles and triumphs as well.

So last week, when the inimitable Ms.Nettie crossed over into the next stage of her life’s Journey, yes – there were many tears.

But there was also great joy.

This post isn’t about how to succeed in your business. But, as my own coach says, “How you do anything is how you do everything”.

So how you live, and how you work, is also how you create, survive – and succeed.

I wrote the following a few years ago, right after Granny’s 100th birthday celebration. And in honor of her amazing life, it feels right to share it again.

Perhaps something here will help you too – in your life, and maybe even your business.

So here you go, in no particular order…

A lifetime of wisdom in 17 short chapters.

Or, just a few things she taught me about how to have a long and lovely life. Continue reading

How to Be a (Really Tired but) Very Good Girl

Little ShoesI’ve had a lot of clients lately who have been Very Good Girls.

And frankly, they’re a little tired of it.

(Thank heavens.)

I do a lot of different things in my work – guiding women through everything from how to grow their business to how to take better care of themselves to how to get through a zip-line tour.

But through it all, what I’m really doing is teaching them to believe in who they are, to  realize they have a right to be happy, and to treat themselves with as much respect as they treat others.

Sounds easy. Usually isn’t.

So I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be a Good Girl.

Here’s a few things that seem to fit, based partly on my own experience, and partly on what I see soooooo often in my coaching and counseling practice.

See what you think.

Here’s 29 Ways to Be a (Really Tired but) Very Good Girl

1. Help take care of your little brothers and sisters.

2. Help them get dressed in the mornings, get their teeth brushed and their school supplies ready.

3. In the evening, help them finish their homework and get ready for bed

4. Help your mom with the dishes, the laundry, and the housecleaning.

5. Do your homework every night.

6. Make very good grades.

7. Always do as you’re told by your parents, teachers, or any other authority figure.

8. Never question what they say. Never complain.

9. Get a part time job as soon as you’re old enough to do so.

10. If money is tight, give some of what you earn to your mom.

11. When arguments break out among your family or friends, do your best to smooth them over.

12. Pay very close attention to the feelings of everyone around you.

13. When you sense someone’s upset, do your best to calm them, make them feel better.

14. Make the men and boys in your life feel especially important, because you know they really need that.

15. Never question them. Never show them up. Never be better at something than they are.

16. Never get mad.

17. If someone mistreats you, try to be better, so they’ll be better.

18. Do your best to earn scholarships, so you can go to a good school and make your parents proud.

19. Volunteer at your church, the Red Cross, the local shelter, and the food pantry.

20. Hide your own feelings, no matter how strong they are. Always hold them in.

21. Never make anyone else uncomfortable.

22. Work harder than anyone around you. Make every minute count.

23. Be happy with a pay check that’s 20% less than the men you work with, because after all, you love your job, right?

24. Don’t worry when one of those men takes credit for your idea. Remember #14.

25. Always put your husband first, your children first, your church first, the elderly couple down the street first.

26. Never, ever, under any circumstances, put your Self first.

27. Never, ever, under any circumstances, ask for what you want, much less insist. That could be seen as selfish.

28. Remember that Good Girls are never Self-ish, because to do something for themselves might violate #21.

29. And always, always follow #16.

Does any of this fit for you? What did I miss?

Let me know in the comments below!

Photo Credit: by Moyan Brennan on Flickr