“Are you living in the gray zone?”
That’s what my coach asked at a training last year. “That’s when you’re not really working, but you’re not really resting, either,” she explained.
Oh. That. Well – yes – perhaps…. now that you mention it, I thought.
So many entrepreneurs begin with fantasies of freedom from the corporate clock. I still remember way back when I was driving a 100 mile loop every day, working 2 jobs, going to school, and generally burning the candle at every possible end.
When I have my own practice, I’d tell myself, I’m not even going to START until 9 o’clock!
Such is the rebellious cry of the hopeful entrepreneur.
Only, that’s not really how it works, does it?
“I need you to help me learn how to handle rejection,” she said.
She wasn’t talking about being snubbed by a boyfriend or turned down for a job. She was talking about losing a customer. Even though she’d had a long and (very) successful career in real estate, the truth was that it still stung when she lost a listing.
“How can I handle that when that happens? I feel terrible!” she said.
Great question, I told her.
Just thinking about it makes you want to hang your head, doesn’t it? Rejection is a strong word, and one to which we can have a very emotional, very personal, reaction.
But what feels like rejection is really something else.
“Is it true that you have to take a pay cut?“
That was just one of the questions that popped up yesterday as I taught one of my more popular programs, “Getting Back to What You Love: How to Design a Private Practice that Serves the World, Feeds Your Family and your Soul”.
As I’ve taught this workshop across the state, certain themes keep coming up. I thought I’d address some of them here for all of you.
And although I’ve been speaking specifically to psychotherapists, you’ll find that their questions apply to almost any type of professional practice, and, indeed, most small businesses.
So there will be a few gems here for you, too.
Let’s see what we’ve got, shall we?