Category Archives: Mindset

The Story Behind the Story: Why Confidence Is My Word of the Year

We all have our issues. :)

And when my Word of the Year showed up, it pointed out one of my own that I didn’t even realize I had.

I wrote about that experience a while back, about how when this word first showed up in my awareness I argued with it.

Because the word was “confidence”, something I really didn’t think I needed! I mean, heck, I’ve been on the planet for a long time. I’ve done a lot of things in my life, and you’d think, by now, I’d have that end of things figured out. Right?!

And I know that sometimes, it even looks that way to you.

But the truth is we all struggle with this in some way. And it doesn’t matter how old you are, how long you’ve been in business, how much you’ve achieved… Confidence is a fragile thing – especially for business owners.

So I thought I’d share a little about what I’ve realized about this for myself, and see if this could help you as well.



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And thanks.

Allowing Your Word to Find You

It’s your word.

And it’s all you need.

ONE word to lean in to, work with, listen to, learn from – for the entire year.

One word to guide you and your business into what you are called to Be over the next year.

One word to use as your North Star, as you navigate your way through what are often murky entrepreneurial waters.

And whatever it is, it’s looking for you.

When I first learned about this practice myself, I didn’t really understand it. I liked the simplicity of it…but had no idea how to find ‘my word’, nor how powerful that word would become.

So at first, it was just about logic.

I carefully considered my business goal for the year, and chose words to fit that.

That first year, it was “Deliberate”. I wanted to consciously and deliberately grow the business I had (back then) in a way that was profitable, manageable, and good for those it served.

And I did spend that year working on systems, but the ‘deliberate’ act that defined it was something else entirely. At the very end of the year, I made a significant investment (that is, a terrifying and exciting leap) into myself and my business that I’d never made before by hiring the coach I have now.

That was a big, scary, step – and definitely a ‘deliberate’ action.

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A Top 10 List: What I Love About Life as an Entrepreneur

Photo Credit: “Worth the Hurt” by Chris Greevebiester on Flickr.

“Remember – you are both a scientist, AND a business owner.”

Those were my parting words to a client I’ve been working with in Ireland, as we wrapped up coaching for the initial phase of her new business.

And she got it.

In just the short time we’d worked together she was already beginning to think like a business owner, even while developing an idea that could make a huge difference in the world.

And that’s just one thing I love about what I do.

Here in the U.S., we’re wrapping up the Thanksgiving holiday. Gratitude is on our minds, and indeed – being grateful makes a huge difference in how you feel at any moment.

But there’s always a hint of lack in there too.

When we focus on being grateful for what we have, just behind that is an awareness of what we don’t have, too.

Can you feel it?

So I coach my clients instead to raise their energy by noticing what they love and appreciate – about their business, their lives, their relationships, their day….you name it.

Tapping into what you love and appreciate creates a sense of celebration, so that you operate from joy, rather than struggle.

And I like that.

Even over the holiday, I’ve consulted with others about their businesses. Those conversations light me up.

What does that for you?
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Just Say Thank You. :)

Photo Credit: Didriks on Flickr

So – are you cooking today?

Here in the U.S., this is Thanksgiving, a major holiday when most thoughts turn to turkey and dressing, family and friends.

Many of us will tune in to watch the annual Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, then we’ll enjoy a huge, delicious meal before dozing, off and on, through an entire afternoon of football. It’s a happy tradition.

Life slows down a little.

We gather to recognize and celebrate those things for which we are grateful.

We stop. Pay attention. Count our blessings.

And if you’re in charge at your house, you may feel the pressure of preparing that big, special dinner – perhaps even more than you feel the pressure of serving your clients!

Of course, some of you handle it with total ease. And some of you — like me — cook with fingers crossed behind your back that somehow it actually works.

(This year, I’ll be planning a mid-winter retreat for a client’s team – instead of cooking – but I’ll do the dishes. Happily!)

And then – the compliments will start.

That was great!
The turkey looks perfect!
Wow, look at that pie. Can’t wait to dig in to THAT one…

And what will you do when that compliment comes your way?

Most of my clients do a great job of thanking others for what they do. They think nothing of tossing out a hug and a “thank you!” for this or a “great job!” for that to family members, friends or co-workers.

And if you’re a guest at someone else’s kitchen this year, betcha money you’ll tell her –(or him) – what a great job she did too.

But when someone throws an “atta girl!” out to you, you may not handle it quite as well.

In fact, some of you pick up that compliment and throw it right back.

“Oh that? That was nothing. Anybody could do that…”

“That” could be anything. Cook a great dessert, raise a great kid, create a great training or give a great talk.

But a compliment is a gift.

And when you toss it back, you are returning the gift unopened. You are declining a treasure just as surely as if you’d handed back a present wrapped in beautiful, shimmering paper – unopened, refused.

I know you would never mean it to be that way – but that’s what you’re doing.

And that is yet another way that you are blocking the flow of positive energy.

So when someone says something nice to you, they are offering a gift – through words. Receive them well. Resist the temptation to deflect praise with a careless, “oh that was nothing.”

Just say thank you.

No modifiers. No little statements afterwards that take it all back. Just a simple smile and a thanks – and that’s IT.

By all means, do stop to give thanks on this special day…

but practice receiving thanks, as well.

Oh, and here’s a quick bonus tip!

If they offer to help with the dishes? Say thanks – and yes – to THAT, too.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Watch What You Think. Change What You Get.

Photo Credit: Wendy Pitts Reeves

“Look at that – there’s three of ‘em!”

Rhegina exclaimed as she bent down to pick up something shiny at her feet. Right there on the sidewalk. In plain view. On this perfectly ordinary Thursday morning.

Three shiny new pennies.

One for each of us. :)

Two friends and I were walking into a mastermind retreat with other entrepreneurs, and our senses were already on high alert. New strategies. Revamped goals. Clearer intentions.

Abundant mindsets.

So of course we picked them up, with a laugh and sense of celebration – because we knew what those little pennies meant.

Sparkling in the early morning sun, they were a wink from the Universe, a tiny gift to let us know that we were seen, that life was good, that money was literally everywhere…

if we looked.

That might seem silly, and yet – managing our energy is one of the most powerful tools we have as entrepreneurs. So what we see, how we feel, and what we notice matters.

Here’s why.
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